Self-Help Guide To
SELF-CONFIDENCE

Self-Confidence Is Key!

Some people have all the luck don't they? Some are genetically intelligent, some are naturally beautiful, some are gifted with talent and some are born with beaming self-confidence. It's so unfair. Isn't it?

Well if you agree with the statements above then it comes to no surprise if you lack adequate self-esteem or more importantly confidence levels. It's a harsh assertion but a truth nevertheless. People are not born with specific qualities that out-shine others. Everyone is born with the potential to acquire any quality they desire and it is up to the individual to claim full use of that potential to the best of their ability.



You have created your own personality by the way you have thought of yourself since childhood and through all your experiences in your life up until today. The things you were told as a child are ingrained into your unconscious mind and that is what has shaped you into the person you are today. Your outside influences from the people and circumstances that surround you play a major role in the development of your character should you accept their views and opinions of yourself.

Without sufficient knowledge of how sensitive your unconscious mind can be if allowed to be dominated by external influences you cannot help but accept that your life is being controlled as opposed to you being in control of it. This is why you feel negative emotions when told something negative about your character and these emotions are being impressed upon your unconscious moulding you into the character that you perceive as others see you.

If you believe that other people are laughing at you then that is what you will experience because remember whatever belief your unconscious holds of you is what will be your reality. If you expect people to laugh at you then your expectations will be fulfilled as the unconscious always strives to meet your expectations. Any negative expectation of other people's reactions towards you will result in an overall lack of self-esteem and self-confidence.

People who beam self-confidence have expectations that where ever they go they will attract attention from everyone they meet and the unconscious produces that reality for them. Every positive experience will increase their inner self-confidence.

People who lack self-confidence expect people to not pay much attention to them and find attention difficult to handle and that is exactly what happens during social interaction. If you are uncomfortable around people they unconsciously pick up this negative energy from you and consequently feel uncomfortable around you.

Low self-confidence can be a difficult state for most to cope with and can have an impact on your health and on your life as a whole. This negative state can also result in the on-coming of anxiety and depression.

The good news here is that no matter how you have been thinking in the past and what you believe about yourself it is never too late to unlearn these negative thought patterns and transform your ability to express your unique character to everyone you contact.

There are various tips and techniques to boost your self-confidence in many ways. This can also develop your self-worth, your self-esteem, your assertiveness, your public speaking ability, your poise, your leadership skills and many more qualities that you never knew you had.

Re-build the self-confidence you already possess within.

All it initially takes is to discover what inner belief you hold about yourself by tracking through your past experiences and analysing your thoughts and reactions to them. The following exercise will help find some of those beliefs and correct the thoughts behind them that are holding you back from expressing a shining confident personality that resides within you.

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Simply close your eyes and ask yourself exactly what you think of yourself. Analyse your thoughts and take note of your emotions as you run through your mind all the significant experiences and events that have occured in your life as far back as you can remember. Note that you do not take into account how any people involved in your experience reacted towards you or more importantly what you thought they were thinking towards you. It is only your thoughts towards yourself that you want to be analysing.

What was your internal dialogue when encountering the situations? How many positive points about yourself could you give on an event that was less than favourable? Could you hear more self praise or more self critism? What was your opinion of yourself encountering a negative situation? Were there more positive occurances compared to negative ones?

This is an exercise people rarely do with themselves and live all their lives with an incorrect perception of themselves to what they truly believe is deep within their hearts. Should these beliefs be sought out and put right many lives can be benefitted from immensely.

While undergoing this practice be careful to not get too involved in the event or start associating yourself with the experience being analysed. You are merely mentally noting down your feelings to the given situation then moving onto the next. This is extremely helpful to discovering some of your hidden beliefs that have just been acting as barriers to your success all your life.

Most importantly be as honest as possible with yourself and just admit if you are at fault or if you are over emotional about a particular thought. Denying your true feelings will render this exercise useless.

So after you have spent a good few days going over your past experiences as they come into your awareness, as and when they feel ready, be prepared to give yourself an overall opinion of how you have seen yourself in these past experiences. Remember you are not analysing how you think of yourself right now but how you have thought about yourself in the past.

Be sure to settle these thought patterns by rationalising with them and accepting that whatever you have thought about yourself in the past is indeed in the past and now you are ready to move on to concentrate solely on the positive.

What you focus upon expands

The lesson here is that any negative thought about yourself is only going to kill progress. Reassure yourself that it was ok for you think as you have done until today because you were unaware of the consequences. If you are still putting yourself down because of something you remembered in the past then you have not learned a thing! Of course, you will experience negative emotions they are difficult to conquer but the first step is to conquer your thoughts behind the emotion and the emotion will naturally neutralise over time.

Negativity is something that you are going to put behind you from today onwards.

So in the same way you settled your negative thought patterns start now to jot down all the positive qualities about yourself. Don't just think them actually right them down on paper. On an A4 sized paper simply spill out your guts about all the things you love about yourself and don't stop until you have filled out both sides. When you have finished read it through and read it as much as you want. Infact the more the better because you are now re-programming your unconscious mind to change what might have been a negative self image of yourself to that of a positive image.

Don't forget to download 'The Science of Being Great' for the concluding part of the exercise.

This is an excellent treatment for any unconscious blockage you may have had concerning any area of your life that you were struggling to overcome. You are now sending these messages to your unconscious mind and thus impressing a positive self image upon it which the unconscious will always strive to bring into your physical reality and in turn, improve your self-confidence.

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